While the "rules" of OpenAI do get frustrating from time to time, I do not blame others who do not follow the same path as I do. If I am asked why my licenses are different from someone else's I will answer according to what I've written in the post above (the rules suck and our vague, I understand why people do what they do and I do what I do because of other reasons). But I definitely do not want to go around and point fingers pre-emptively in hopes that people just use my models. Our community for Dutch is already quite small so I rather just lift each other up and build on each others work through friendly "competition" than to compete in bad faith.
So I think that for my future models, I'll just make use of ultrachat+ultrafeedback, which should be cleared for training apache 2.0 models because they were created with Azure. This may negatively impact the model's performance (especially for code because it does not include the Stack Overflow set) but I hope the impact is limited.